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Michelle DeRusha

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March 3, 2014 By Michelle 29 Comments

Hear It on Sunday, Use It on Monday: When You Think You Can See but You’ve Got It All Wrong

I pulled into the parking space just as the red pickup truck next to me turned sharply, clipping the neighboring car so hard it rocked on its wheels.

The pickup idled. Behind the spattered windows rolled up tight, a man and a woman looked down at the scraped Ford. There was discussion. Mouths moved behind the closed windows. They looked, talked some more, laughed. And then drove slowly away.

I ran across the parking lot and into SuperSaver. Tossing my purse onto crates of tomato juice, I wrote a note and the license plate number on the back of a used envelope. And then I hurried back outside to place it on the damaged car’s windshield.

I was pleased with myself. They deserved it, that couple. They’d done something wrong and had even had the gall to laugh about it. They’d looked like the type who would do such a thing: unkempt, rough around the edges. Justice needed to be served, and I was the one to do it.

Halfway across the parking lot, note in hand, I stopped. The woman who had sat in the pickup truck now stood in front of the little blue Ford, hands thrust deep in the pockets of her ragged jacket. She surveyed the front bumper and then turned and sauntered toward the grocery store. One row away the man waited in the passenger seat of the red pickup.

I stalled a few seconds before following the woman back into the grocery store. In the produce section I plucked six oranges from the pyramid. I pushed my cart toward the onions, checked my list.

“May I have your attention please,” the announcer garbled over the store intercom. I paused. “Will the owner of a dark blue Ford, license plate OGI 782, please come to the customer service counter at the front of the store. The owner of a blue Ford, license plate OGI 782, please come to customer service. Thank you.”

Although this incident happened more than two years ago, I still think about it a lot, and I was reminded of it again when I read this week’s lesson about the blind man.

“I entered this world to render judgment,” Jesus told the blind man after he had healed him “– to give sight to the blind and to show those who think they see that they are blind.”

Jesus was talking about the know-it-all Pharisees, of course, who just moments earlier had chastised the healed man, a sinner, for daring to contradict them, for daring to teach them.

As much as I hate to admit it, I know Jesus is talking to the know-it-all me in this story, too. That day in the SuperSaver parking lot (and many other days since then) I was the worst kind of Pharisee. I was confident I had it all figured out. Those people – the ones who looked a little unkempt, the ones who were different than me, dare I say less-than me – they had needed to be judged, and I had appointed myself to do it.

What I didn’t realize until almost too late was that I’d judged wrong; I’d been blind. I’d only thought I could see. And those people? The ones I’d deemed the sinners? The ones I’d considered less-than?

They taught me.

Questions for Reflection:
Have you ever wrongly judged someone? Have you ever considered that it might be you that Jesus is talking to in this story, or do you always assume it’s someone else?

Part of this post originally ran as a guest post two years ago at Emily Wierenga’s place. 

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  1. Joe Pote says

    March 3, 2014 at 6:07 am

    Oh yes, I’ve definitely judged wrongly, before. It’s a pretty humbling experience. Realizing, this morning on my blog, though, that the humility of realizing I was wrong is a necessary component of the glorious epiphany of insight into new understanding.

    I’ve decided I like the epiphanies! …so I’ll gladly accept the humility of realizing how wrong I was… 🙂

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    • Michelle DeRusha says

      March 3, 2014 at 5:13 pm

      Yes, yes, yes, humility is part of the grace journey – lovely point, Joe!

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  2. Joanne Viola says

    March 3, 2014 at 6:22 am

    This is so very true. A few years ago, I was pierced when reading, “The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.” (Matt. 7:2,NLT). Yeah, that helped me to be more gracious for sure!

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    • Michelle DeRusha says

      March 3, 2014 at 5:14 pm

      Piercing verse, I’ll say – thanks for sharing that Joanne.

      Reply
  3. Abby says

    March 3, 2014 at 6:52 am

    Hi Michelle! I remember this story when you first posted it, but I think it means even more to me now…
    I don’t know if it’s getting older;) too many years working with trying teenagers? or just some crust I’d rather ditch for good…but I know that God has a profound sense of humor loving me enough to not let me go down to the deep end of the proverbial Pharisaic pool. Most recently it’s ALL of the things I blame my sweet-patient husband for losing only to find out it was me:) I’ve started to anticipate the punch line and have the smile ready:) {hugs to you!}

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    • Michelle DeRusha says

      March 3, 2014 at 5:14 pm

      SO so happy to see you here, Abby – sending lots of love!

      Reply
  4. Kim says

    March 3, 2014 at 7:15 am

    Judging has been part of our Sunday School discussion the past several weeks, so this was a timely post and great reminder. Thanks for the opportunity to link up, Michelle.

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  5. Ro elliott says

    March 3, 2014 at 10:01 am

    Thanks for your honesty here…I am a recovering Pharisee … It is painful to have a ” pharisectomy”…. But the surgeon is so kind and gentle… So wise to know just where to cut and He provides the perfect healing balm. At times I can look back and almost feel nauseous …but as Grace changed how I see others… It’s changed how I see myself!!!!

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    • Michelle DeRusha says

      March 3, 2014 at 5:15 pm

      I know what you mean, Ro – this story makes me sick. I am ashamed by my behavior.

      I like how you put that: pharisectomy. 🙂

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  6. Lyli @ 3-D Lessons for Life says

    March 3, 2014 at 11:16 am

    Guilty. I’ve been guilty of this many times.

    I keep praying for God to give my eyes of grace. Lord, please…

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  7. rachel says

    March 3, 2014 at 11:23 am

    this is such a powerful post, Michelle. it’s actually a bit of a slap across my face as I realize my own propensity for judging even when I am so outspoken against that very thing.

    love you, love your heart.

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  8. Lisa notes says

    March 3, 2014 at 12:48 pm

    “As much as I hate to admit it, I know Jesus is talking to the know-it-all me in this story, too.”

    I’ve done that far too often than I’d care to admit. 🙁 Judging others comes way too easily, including judging myself. I want it all to go away.

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  9. marg says

    March 3, 2014 at 1:19 pm

    oh I am too judge-y. It is the thing that I like least about me. I think when I spew out my judgments it is worse! Maybe a good Lenten practice would be to keep some of these tidbits to myself and wait and see what actually happens. Picky, picky, picky . . .

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  10. Asheritah says

    March 3, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    Oh Michelle, I’ve done this more often than I’d like to admit. I find myself judging others and then humbled by the realization that I was the one wronging them in my heart. Thank God He is so patient and gracious with us!

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  11. Nancy Kehr says

    March 3, 2014 at 3:55 pm

    All is not what you sometimes think you see. Better to wait and let it play out!

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    • Michelle DeRusha says

      March 3, 2014 at 5:16 pm

      VERY wise advice, Nancy!

      Reply
  12. Laura Connell says

    March 3, 2014 at 4:05 pm

    Oh yeah, I’m pretty sure it’s me Jesus is talking to in this story and He’s doing it through your blog post today about something I’ve been judging recently.

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  13. Martha Orlando says

    March 3, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    Oh, Lord, forgive me for all the times I’ve judged wrongly. But, through those, Jesus has taught me a powerful lesson, as it seems He has to you, Michelle. It is not our place to judge; it is our place to love.
    Blessings!

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  14. Nannette and the Sweetheart says

    March 3, 2014 at 5:49 pm

    Ouch!! What a lesson that keeps on teaching. How we have all misjudged others, so many times. Lord, help me!

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  15. Judith @WholeHeartedHome says

    March 3, 2014 at 9:00 pm

    I can’t think when I judged someone (my memory fails me) but yet I know I have. I have learned (through experience) to be careful not to be soooo sure about something because just about when I am absolutely sure…I find I am dead wrong and have an apology to make.

    Thanks so much for hosting.

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  16. Laurie Collett says

    March 4, 2014 at 10:32 am

    It is so easy to fall into the trap of judging, and forgetting to love. Thanks for the great post & for hosting & God bless!

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  17. Lynn Morrissey says

    March 4, 2014 at 11:12 am

    Oh boy do I get this, Michelle, and sadly not because I’m the one who has been misjudged (though I have been, and it hurts). But how quickly do I make assumptions and assume that I am Queen of the Universe, with a right to dish out proclamtions of judgment. Thank you for a soul-probing post! It’s a great reminder.
    Love
    Lynn

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  18. Rev. Emily Heitzman says

    March 4, 2014 at 2:06 pm

    Michelle, I’m so happy I found your site. I somehow saw it when I was reading one of the bloggers who had recently link-uped to your “Hear It On Sunday, Use it On Monday.” I actually just added my link-up after reading some of your posts and some of the others. Then I decided to check out more about you and realized you are at an ELCA congregation in Lincoln. I actually graduated from UNL in 2004 and though I’m ordained PCUSA, I am currently serving 3 ELCA congregations (along with an American Baptist church) in the city of Chicago. As a true Cornhusker, I love these types of connections! I look forward to reading more from you in the future.

    As to your post: this is a beautiful story and such a common one. I continuously find myself blind to others’ intentions and/or their needs in my personal life and in my ministry. Thank you for your honesty and this beautiful reminder.

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    • Michelle says

      March 4, 2014 at 2:31 pm

      Reverend Emily, I am so happy to meet you here – thank you for your gracious comment and for introducing yourself! I will hop over to your place in a bit to say hello there.

      Reply

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